ok now i found this information
If you are logged in, your submissions may be bypassing the moderation queue because of permissions assigned to your role. See the “Roles” screen in the Connections admin to set and change the permissions for each role.
I am not sure what to change so the submission goes to moderation tab to get moderated instead of getting submitted in the list automatically
Also while testing many submissions I only received one email message and the email submission confirmation is not coming through anymore. I am using gmail which should be fine.