re: Do you also think it would help if I updated to the newest version of Wishlist?
No, it is unlikely an update to WishList will address the issue. They would have to specifically add a filter for other devs to add exceptions and I doubt they would do that unless there was a request for it. Maybe you could communicate that to them???
I installed the Code Snippets plugin on your site and added a new snippet which simply just makes the Connections admin functions run before WishList runs only if the current user would fail the check that WishList would run before doing the redirect. That way any negative impact should be marginal, seems to work fine.
Hope that helps!
If you have a moment, I would truely appreciate a review as they really do make a difference. Many thanks in advance!